Savage love & marriage
In 2005, I interviewed Dan Savage while he was on tour for The Commitment, detailing the marriage to his longtime boyfriend. It reminded me that even though justice may arrive “like a thunderbolt,” it’s been a long time in coming.
“While we enjoyed being the center of attention in the spring of 2004, we were ready for the gay marriage debate to end by the beginning of the summer,” Savage wrote in his book. “You reach your limit more quickly when your kid is sitting at the kitchen table in his Incredible Hulk pj’s, eating his breakfast, pausing now and again to wiggle one of his loose baby teeth, all the while listening to his parents’ relationship being described as a threat to all things decent and good.”
Ironically, my wife Jess read The Commitment on our honeymoon. Now any couple — gay or straight — can read it on theirs. I thought now it would be timely to revisit my 10-year-old Q+A.
Dan Savage is settling down.
The 41-year-old Savage Love author married his boyfriend Terry Miller after 10 years together and six years after adopting their son, DJ.
Savage’s ambivalence about getting married and the political overtones of their gay marriage is chronicled in his fourth book “The Commitment: Sex, Love, Marriage, and My Family.”
